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Mubvunzo. Kazhinji kutaura, panguva dzehurukuro dzakawanda vanhu vanoda kufambisa zvakawanda pamusoro: a) Ivo pachavo, kana b) Vamwe vanhu .
Mhinduro, (a) Ivo pachavo.
Mubvunzo. Kazhinji kutaura, panguva hurukuro huru vanhu: a) Tendai kutaura kune zvavanoteerera, kana b) Tenda kuteerera pane zvavanotaura.
Mhinduro, (a) Tenda kutaura pane zvavanoteerera.
Zvimwe zvikwereti. Kana pakaburitsa zviitiko iwe unoteerera pavanenge vachitaura, uye zvino iwe unobvunza mubvunzo wakanaka wekutevera uchibva pane zvawakangonzwa, iwe uchange uine zvishoma kana kupfuura zvingaita kuti uzviratidze mupfungwa dzavo?
Mhinduro, zvinowanzoitika.
Uye kana tichiziva kuti kutengesa kunenge kusingasviki pakusangana nevanhu vatsva pane kuvaita ivo vachikuyeuka mushure mokunge chokwadi chacho, saka kuchengetedza maitiro aya mupfungwa ndechimwe chiito chekutanga pakukubatsira kuti urege kubva kuvanhu.
Saka ungawana sei munhu kukuyeuchidza kubva kune vamwe vanhu gumi vaakasangana nawo usiku humwe chete?
Zvakanaka, imwe nzira huru yekukurukurirana izwi rinonzi kunyanya kutarisa, uye ichi ndicho chimwe chezvandinoda pakunzwisisa unyanzvi hwokuteerera.
Imwe nzira yakakura yokumira kubva kune vanhu vazhinji ndeyokubvunza mibvunzo "yakarurama" yevanhu paunenge uchitaura kwavari.
Ndeipi mimwe mienzaniso yemibvunzo "yakarurama" yaunobvunza? Ngatitarisei pane zvishoma zvandinoda.
Saka pane kupi zvimwe zvaunowanzobatanidza?
Amy Windham, mutengesi uye mutengesi wandaifambidzana neni pano muAtlanta, akatanga kuunza iyi kune yangu uye ichinhu chakakwana. Haisi kungobatsira chete kuputsa mazaya panguva iyo dzimwe nguva-inotyisa nguva mushure mokunge mazvizivisa iwe, asi inokupawo mukana wekutaura pamusoro pechinhu chimwe chaunoziva zvishoma nezvishoma.
Chimwe chikonzero ini ndinoda mubvunzo uyu zvakanyanya ndechokuti inokupa mukana wekuita "kushamwaridzana pfupi" nemumwe munhu.
Sei?
Nokupa ruzivo rwakakosha rwavasati vambove narwo kare. Uye sezvatinoziva tose, imwe yeiyi dzekusimbisa hukama hwebhizimisi hwakasimba ndeyokutanga kuyanana nemunhu iyeye.
Semuenzaniso weizvi, ndakanga ndiri pane imwe nzvimbo yekutambidza mitambo rimwe mangwanani apo ndakabvunza munhu kune imwe nzvimbo yaaiwanzobatana nayo.
Akandiudza kuti sechinhu chaicho, akanga asingazivi nezveimwe nzvimbo dzakawanda dzakapoteredza guta nokuti aingoenda kunharaunda yacho.
Zvakanaka iyo yaiva mimhanzi munzeve dzangu, nokuti semunhu wakagara muAtlanta kwemakore anenge mashanu, ndinoda kuzviona somumwe nyanzvi kana zvasvika kune zviitiko zvekugadzira nzvimbo.
Saka ndakamupa mazita emapoka maviri kubva kumusoro kwepamusoro wangu, uye ndakataura kuti ndaizomupfura email apo ndaifunga nezvimwe zvakare.
Zvakanaka rega ndikutaurire chimwe chinhu, iwe unogona kunge uchiona kuregererwa mumaziso ake. Akanga achionga zvechokwadi kuti ndaive ndichimubatsira kunze kwemashoko iwayo.
Uye ndizvo zvandinoreva kana ndichitaura nezvekugadzira ukama nemumwe munhu uye kukudziridza kubatana kwebhizimisi rakasimba. Uye rega ndikubvunze chimwe chinhu, dai iwe uri iwe, iwe ungandiyeuka shure kwechiitiko ichocho here?
Iwe uri kutengesa.
Saka iwe unofarira chii pamusoro pezvaunoita?
Uyu ndiwo mumwe mubvunzo wakanaka wandinoda kubvunza pakutanga kwekukurukurirana nokuti, mumaonero angu, zvishoma "nzira itsva" kune yekare, "Saka iwe unoitei?" Munhu wose akabvunzwa kuti rimwe, uye mubvunzo uyu pano unokupa imwe sarudzo yekuwana mamwe mashoko.
Rimwe caveat, kunyange zvakadaro: Inenge 40% yenguva yandinobvunza mubvunzo uyu, vanhu vanoitendeuka uye vanondibvunza chinhu chimwe chete. Saka usati handina kukunyeverai.
Oo, ndinoona. Saka chii chawakatanga iwe?
Uyu mubvunzo mukuru unobvunzwa munguva dzekupedzisira dzekukurukurirana, uye yemibvunzo mitatu yatakambotaura nezvayo, izvi zvinowanzokurudzira kupindura kwenguva refu.
Uye izvi zvakanaka zvakare nokuti iye zvino tava kugadzirira kupedza pasi hurukuro yedu, asi kwete tisati tawana mukana wekudzidza zvishoma pamusoro pezvinoita kuti munhu uyu aende, uye akasvika kune iye nhasi.